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About Dr. Ray

Dr. Ray with spiritual teacher and lecturer Marianne Williamson, author of four New York Times #1 Bestsellers.

Dr. Ray with spiritual teacher and lecturer Marianne Williamson, author of four New York Times #1 Bestsellers.

My real journey began when I was 23 years old. I was a very confused and angry young man who had an unhealthy relationship with money, women, and himself. It was as if I were paddling upstream and repeating the same self-defeating patterns. I had been arrested for a DUI (driving under the influence). Women were interested in me at first but were quickly turned off by my insecurities and lack of direction. All this stress gave me health challenges such IBS (irritable bowel syndrome). I was stuck – and my body was just reflecting how my life was.

However, one day a miracle happened. I met a woman named Marci while I was on dancing tour in Arizona. I was annoyed that her and I were not going to spend time alone but she didn’t give into my anger. Instead she shifted my perceptions and like a love ninja. I was blown away by her centeredness and kindness. She shared her insights about the healing arts and metaphysics. Before I left back to California, she bought me the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay.

I read the entire book in two days. Everything made complete sense to me. It was as if I were downloading ancient wisdom that I had always known. I needed to learn more. I was determined to heal my body and to expand my mind. I sought out psychologists, healers, bodyworkers, and attended any workshops that caught my attention.

Through my own challenges and perseverance, I became a practitioner in the healing arts. After decades of formal and life education, I created a hybrid of techniques that cut through the muck and get you unstuck.

I still have a thirst for knowledge and expanded awareness. My path is my work and to help others. I appreciate your interest in possibly meeting me. Sharing your experience and journey is a great opportunity for us to learn more–together.

Now here is my official bio:

Ray Doktor, Psy. D. has received a bachelor’s degree in human behavior, a master’s degree in counseling psychology and a doctorate in clinical psychology. His past advanced training included hypnotherapy, gestalt therapy, guided imagery, EMDR, NLP, Psych –K, meditation, qi gong, sound healing, and somatic experience. He has seen over 5000 clients over the past 17 years with a 90% success rate.

 

Dr. Ray’s mentorship included traveling around the world to assist Dr. Morris Netherton (Pioneer and colleague of Fritz Perls, Carl Rogers, Norm Shealy). He was also a student of Mantak Chia and Master Hong Liu. He was supervised at Hollywood Sunset Fee Clinic, Positive Directions, and Glendale Memorial Hospital.

Dr. Ray with mentor and Taoist Master Mantak Chia. Mr. Chia is considered the authority on Taoist sexuality and healing through love.

Dr. Ray with mentor and Taoist Master Mantak Chia. Mr. Chia is considered the authority on Taoist sexuality and healing through love.

Dr. Ray specializes in relationship coaching, couples coaching, intimacy and sexuality issues, dating advice, and life coaching and career paths. His hybrid relationship coaching style combines Western and Eastern techniques.

What distinguishes Dr. Ray’s coaching is that it goes beyond merely lecturing you with relationship and dating advice. Instead of talk-therapy, his approach is one that shows you how to actively access the depths of your unconscious, empowering you to reprogram your mind and change unwanted patterns and behaviors. The sophisticated and simple exercises designed by Dr. Ray tap into your cellular body so that you can experience change on an emotional level as well. It is through this holistic approach that you are most likely to achieve the results that you seek. In a session, he might combine mind techniques, Tibetan bowls, light healing, and breathwork.  Many clients have had breakthroughs in a single session. Dr. Ray’s methods include audio recordings, DVDs, fun “homework” assignments, and other positive reinforcement tools to assist you on your journey and healthier relationship and life path.

Dr. Ray with friend Michael Beckwith: minister, author, and founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center in Culver City, California.

Dr. Ray with friend Michael Beckwith: minister, author, and founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center in Culver City, California.

In addition to being a relationship coach, Dr. Ray Doktor is a sought-after speaker and workshop facilitator. He has conducted workshops and lectures in the United States, The Netherlands, Brazil, and The UK, including speaking engagements at renowned institutions like UCLA and UC Berkley. He has shared the same stages with Marianne Williamson, Bruce Lipton, and Eckhart Tolle. Dr. Ray has also made appearances on the E Channel, HBO, and KCAL 9 Los Angeles and has been quoted in and written articles for Psychology Today, The Los Angeles Times, Men’s Health, and The Santa Monica Daily Press. You may have also heard him on Playboy Radio, LA Talk Radio, and Talk America Radio.

Dr. Ray offers bimonthly workshops in Los Angeles to support men and women in their desire to attract better relationships. He also offers webinars to those who live abroad. You can view his lectures at https://www.youtube.com/raydoktor

Dr. Ray is a member of the International Hypnosis Federation, the Los Angeles County Psychological Association, the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, and the American Hypnosis Association

And yes, his real last name is Doktor. Everyone has a chuckle about it, and he is used to that response by now :)

Dr. Ray’s breakthrough program is solution-focused and customized to help with the following problems:

  • Life and career path
  • Intimacy/connection, loss of passion
  • Communication
  • Past unresolved problem
  • Separation/divorce
  • Pre-marriage/new couples challenges
  • Sexuality
  • Healing a heartbreak
  • Transitional issues/new step kids, school, and community
  • Challenges with dating/newly single
  • Inexperienced/don’t know what to do
  • Uncertainty about what you want in a relationship
  • Fear of losing yourself in a relationship

NOTE: Sessions are not to be construed as psychotherapy or by a licensed medical practitioner.

If you are experiencing any of the issues above, then you are at the right place for assistance.
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Why I Love What I Do – by Dr. Ray Doktor