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3 Steps For Rekindling Fading Love In Your Relationship

3 Steps For Rekindling Fading Love In Your Relationship

By on Mar 3, 2014 in Communication, Intimacy/Connection, Loss of passion, Past Unresolved Problem, Pre-marriage/new couples challenges, Separation/divorce, Wholeminds Relationship Advice Blog | 4 comments

By Ray Doktor, Psy. D.   Do you feel like your relationship lacks the love that originally brought you together with your partner? Are you no longer affectionate and loving toward each other? Does the relationship feel stuck as if it is more about routines and getting through the day? What if I could give you three steps to rekindle love and to create more...

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How To Heal A Heartbreak

How To Heal A Heartbreak

By on Mar 2, 2014 in Challenges with Dating, Communication, Loss of passion, Past Unresolved Problem, Pre-marriage/new couples challenges, Wholeminds Relationship Advice Blog | 0 comments

By Ray Doktor, Psy. D   The end of a relationship is fertile soil to learn about us—our True Selves. It is an opportunity to be vulnerable and reflective, while observing our natural reactions as human beings without over-identifying with them. We can recognize recurring, negative patterns and seek healthy ways to change them. We can also remember the beautiful...

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How Could Past Unresolved Trauma Impact My Sexuality?

How Could Past Unresolved Trauma Impact My Sexuality?

By on Feb 24, 2014 in Challenges with Dating, Communication, Healing a heartbreak, Past Unresolved Problem, Pre-marriage/new couples challenges, Sexuality | 0 comments

By Ray Doktor   Throughout evolution, humans have been exposed to a plethora of traumatic events, including violence, rape, incest, assault, natural disasters, wars, genocide, car accidents, and perpetual emotional abuse and neglect. Trauma can temporarily or permanently incapacitate an individual’s ability to cope with or pay attention to both new and familiar...

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When Do I Know I Am Ready To Date?

When Do I Know I Am Ready To Date?

By on Feb 12, 2014 in Challenges with Dating, Communication, Healing a heartbreak, Past Unresolved Problem, Transitional issues/new step kids, school, and community, Uncertainty about what you want in relationship, Wholeminds Relationship Advice Blog | 0 comments

By Ray Doktor, Psy. D. Like most of us, I have been told that I should wait awhile before dating or jumping into another serious relationship after a breakup. Whether I paused with seeing new people or ended up being in a rebound relationship, I ended up learning and attracting what I needed in that moment. There is no avoiding insecurities or denying that I was...

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How Are Men And Women’s Wants And Desires Different?

How Are Men And Women’s Wants And Desires Different?

By on Jan 14, 2014 in Challenges with Dating, Communication, Fear of losing yourself in a relationship, Intimacy/Connection, Loss of passion, Past Unresolved Problem, Pre-marriage/new couples challenges, Sexuality, Uncertainty about what you want in relationship, Wholeminds Relationship Advice Blog | 0 comments

by Ray Doktor, Psy. D.   Women are inundated by men asking them out. If they keep attracting the wrong type of man, they need to work on their filtering system. Men need to work on themselves to improve their approach. It is important to see how men and women process feelings and experiences differently including how they assess their potential mate. Here are...

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What Is The Difference Between Love, Falling In Love, And Sexual Attraction?

What Is The Difference Between Love, Falling In Love, And Sexual Attraction?

By on Jan 4, 2014 in Challenges with Dating, Loss of passion, Past Unresolved Problem, Sexuality, Uncertainty about what you want in relationship, Wholeminds Relationship Advice Blog | 0 comments

by Ray Doktor   Love is the experience of oneness. You love your best friend including his idiosyncrasies. There is no sexual attraction but you could cuddle or hug him. You might love art, music, or being in a certain place. This experience might feel spiritual as if there is no separateness from that which you love. Falling in love is more of an exclusive...

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