The 4 Most Important Values To Attract A Passionate And Spiritual Relationship
by Ray Doktor, Psy. D.
If you have done online dating, you are familiar with the questionnaires that are created to hopefully pair you with the right person. It might be based on height, age, interests, if you own pets, if you are a sports fan, or how much money you make. If a friend sets you up on blind date, you might realize how much your friend really doesn’t know you. If you are in a relationship, you might learn how connected or disconnected you are with your partner.
None of these linear questions and expectations determines compatibility and attraction. You cannot ask a controlled, linear masculine question to understand the unpredictability of relationships and chemistry. Secondly, to properly elicit a more balanced response, there need to be questions that come from a feminine perspective. For example, if you were to direct the question into the body, the visceral emotional response would be more authentic and a balance of feminine processing.
The four questions below guide you to move beyond your limited perspectives and into your body. These questions address the unconscious mind giving you a clearer picture of what you want and what you need to work on. When it comes to creating a conscious passionate relationship, these questions are utterly important. I call this energetic matching.
1. Sexual and creativity: Focus your attention on your pelvic area. Bring your awareness and breath to that area. How comfortable are you with your sexuality? How true are you to your feminine or masculine essence? How sensual are you in life? How open is your body in this region? If there are blocks, what might they be? How creative are you in your life and how much passion are you experiencing?
How would you like your partner to be in correlation with you? Are you as open as you would like your partner to be? Are you showing up in your life with the creativity and passion that you would like your partner to be?
2. Emotional: Focus your attention on your heart. Bring your awareness and breath to that area. How in touch are you with your feelings? How comfortable are you with allowing others to know how you truly feel?
How true do you stay to your heart? If you feel blocks are guarded, what would it take to unveil your heart?How emotional and sensitive would you like your partner to be? How open is your heart and are you living as you would like your partner to be?
3. Clarity and insight: Focus on the space between your eyebrows. Bring your awareness and breath to that area. Are you able to observe your life rather than be caught in the drama and circumstances? Are you able to discern what is right for you or do you allow emotions to override you? Are you exercising your intuition? Do you have the clarity to allow both your mind and heart to work together? If there is clutter in your life, what do you need to let go to see who you really are?
How would you like your partner’s clarity to be? Could you trust his or her insight over yours? How would your relationship look like if you both were able to navigate by communicating with objectivity and in the heart?
4. Higher power spirituality: Focus on the space above your head. Bring your awareness and breath to that area. What does spirituality look like in your life? Do you feel like you have a divine purpose? How connected are you to your nature and flow. Are you allowing life to be lived through you? If you have doubts or do not know why you exist, what would bring you closer to trusting and love?
How would your partner appear as a spiritual being? How much would you like to experience the material world as much as the higher realms? Could you surrender the past and drama and enter the unknown? What would it look like for you both to treat each other as a god and goddess remembering that your connection is for the greater good for all?